Dating people living with herpes


The whole experience made me more comfortable with the fact that I have herpes and gave me the confidence to begin dating again.It was as if I had just re-entered mainstream society.I met dozens of electronic pen pals and eventually went on several dates.It was a relief not to worry about when to bring up my medical history, and to bond with a guy over asymptomatic shedding instead of having to explain it.Less than a week later, I found myself in excruciating pain.It hurt to walk, and I couldn't use soap anywhere near my genital area.I held off on sex for as long as I could, but it got more and more difficult.One day, my new beau reassured me, "I'm disease-free, I just got tested.



By the time I finished college in 1994, the possibility of spreading the virus even when you didn't have an outbreak had become more widely accepted by health care providers.Many feature chat rooms, bulletin boards, treatment information, personal ads, and social groups around the world.A friend of mine had recently married a guy she met on the Web -- proving that not every Internet date is a psycho -- so I gave it a try.Many people are unaware they have it, because they don't experience symptoms or because they attribute the symptoms to something else. Years later, I've come to the realization that he knew he had herpes, and that is the reason he stopped in the midst of our sexual adventure.

During an outbreak, blisters or sores appear on or around the genital area. The nurse taught me how to manage the virus, but managing my personal life was another story. Our friendship, unfortunately, ended as quickly as the act.

I was still uncomfortable about bringing up the subject, but now I didn't have much of a choice.